Hey, you, whining about how your boyfriend/girlfriend treats you like crap. Don't you know they only do it because you put up with it? "Oh, shut up, Honey," you say. "What the fuck do you know about it?" Well, I was in an emotionally/occasionally physically abusive relationship with a man eleven years older than me from the ages of nearly-16 to nearly-19, so I understand the way you talk yourself into accepting it. I know more than you think.
Call them on it. Say, "Look, knock it off or I'm leaving." There are three ways this can turn out. One, they'll knock it the hell off, and you won't have to worry about it anymore. Two, they'll keep it up, you'll leave, and you won't have to worry about it anymore. Three, they'll keep it up, you'll wuss out and stay, and you'll keep that weakness festering in a little boil of self-hatred at the back of your brain until you fall apart entirely.
"But I'll feel so awful without So-And-So!" Chances are, babycakes, you already feel awful with So-And-So. You're always telling everyone who will listen what a rotten prick So-And-So is, right? What you're really afraid of is being alone. And please take it from me.. there are worse things.
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